Responsibilities..

Responsibilities..

When you are a kid everyone takes care of you as if you cannot do anything all by yourself!
You say "Mom,  I'm going to the market to buy some chocolates"
Mom says "Wait you stay let me go to the market, I also have more stuff to buy".

When you grow up...
You say "Mom , I'm going to the market to buy some chocolates"
Mom says "Wait here is a list of 2-3 items whenever you go bring that too!"

As you grow ...
You have to make your own snack for the evening,
You have to clean your room all by yourself,
You have to make phone calls to your teachers or college for any kind of queries,
You have to learn how to cook (may be little but still you have to know the basics),
and the list goes on and on !

As you grow, you start getting surrounded by many responsibilities!

This makes me realize the Spidey (Spider man) quote   :

                                   "With great power comes great responsibility."

The responsibility keeps on increasing! 

My holidays started from 28th October and till date their has not been a single day when I had to do no work been told my Mom. I didn't really got any time for myself.

Wake up..
Get ready..
Help out mom..
Do little Facebook , check your mails , write some post on your blog!
Help mom for the lunch..
Sleep or watch TV..
Again Help out mom or go to the market..
Do some work on the laptop given by dad..
Watch TV..
Help out mom for dinner..
Watch TV..
Go to sleep..

and the same schedule goes on and on and on...

Don't actually get time to message and have a little chit chat with my college friends!
Everyday I think..
"Yeah tomorrow I'm gonna message them and have a little talk"
 but nope this tomorrow has not come yet!

Well on the Positive side "it keeps me busy".
But on the Negative side  "it makes me feel tired and I feel like... It was better if I still had to go to the college"...

But after all this is life...
Its better to move with it and be happy ...
otherwise you will end up in complaining all the time! 

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The reason ?

The reason ?

Why is everyone blogging over here? Some of them must be having strong reason but most of them surely don't have a proper one. It's just there interest or a kind of hobby that makes them do blogging :)

Well I am one of those who don't have any specific reason for doing this. I'm doing this because I found this interesting and a safe place where I can put my views and no one is going to kill me for that ;)

I don't post regularly because you should post only when you have something to share with everyone! It's not that you should post because you have joined this stuff!

On checking out others profile I find various kind of bloggers! Some post on specific topics and some post randomly on any topic that they like to share...and I am one of them.

I would say if somebody wants to know me truly like what I am , what I think and what I want....most of the topics I've posted over here will surely make them know the true "ME".

I joined blog spot because I wanted a place where I can write "freely" whatever I think.Like me all of you must be having various reasons to join and become a blogger.

By joining this my writing and way of expressing in English language has surely improved a lot by now because our regular language is Malay but everyone should be good in English as well because after all it is a common language and is kind of a necessity, so it should be learned well!

So why did you start blogging?

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Letting someone in can cause a big impact ?

Letting someone in can cause a big impact ?

At our age their are loads of people falling in love. It appears as if making a boyfriend/girlfriend has become one of the necessities in our life, but is it that after making one your own life comes to an end?

Well for me it's surely a big NO and for some of you it will be YES.

I have come across some incidents in my life which show that the couples put on restrictions over each others life and in future relationship comes to an end because it becomes difficult to follow all the restrictions that have been put on you!

I have seen two such incidents in my school life and I am proud of one of those incidents.

First one is :

When I was in 8th standard one of my friends became in relationship with a guy who was one year elder than him. They were quite happy with each other, but when we entered in ninth standard obviously we and the boys became great friends and so do she but her boyfriend felt jealous whenever he used see her talking with some other guy. So he told her not to talk to any guy except him and she was so much in love with him she agreed to that and left her male friends and we all were so surprised with this thing and I was like, "yeah okay little jealousy is healthy for every relationship because it makes you love her more, but it does not mean that you make her stop talking with some one because you are jealous ! From that very day I realized that this relationship will surely end because according to me a relationship does not mean putting restrictions over each other, it simply means understanding and having faith and trust over each other that whatever step they both will take will lead to good. If he had said her to stop talking to one guy because he is bad then there was no issue at all but I completely disagree with what he asked her to do. So as I had mentioned earlier that their relationship will come to an end, well it came to an end but for some other reasons. So after her break up she came back to all her friends and we all accepted her and forgave her for whatever decision she made.

Second one is:

When I was in 10th standard again one of my friends came in relationship with one of my male friends. Well it became official in 11th standard but you know it's very easy to figure out if something fishy like this is cooking! The problem was the same but that girl was so determined that whatever happens she will not at any cost will ever loose her best friend.So the guy started pressurizing her, after some days of this melodrama she said that if he is ready to loose one of his close female friend then she will surely leave her best friend. Now everything depended on the decision of the guy because the girl she wanted him to leave was one of his close friends. So days passed and he finally decided that he will not do such sacrifices .So this matter ended but not for long and finally for numerous reasons she decided to breakup because she loved her life more!

and this was the incident that I was proud of because it takes lots of guts to make such decisions.

From these two incidents I realized that at this age our own life is much more important because this is the only time when we actually live for ourselves and fulfill our dreams. After marriage obliviously life will be different and couple will live for each other but this is surely not the age to do this kind of things.

If someone cannot except you in the way you are then their no way by which this relationship will ever grow.

Yeah adjusting is also something in a relationship but it does not mean to loose your freedom. Adjusting is covering up each others weaknesses.

Hope don't ever see or face this kind of situation in my life because it's not something to be happy about.

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Changing Part 1

Changing Part 1

So far I've noticed that our life changes at each and every moment. The best part is no one actually notices it...even I realized this thing today " 19 October 2017 ". I remember the moment when I was actually the most innocent and sincere girl among the girls I had met at some point but now?
Yeah innocence and sincerity is still alive but has got quite blurred in this whole journey and I guess its with everyone and not only me...

Priorities have changed... When i was a kid choosing a stuff toy was the most difficult decision for me and now choosing career, friends and other important and big decisions has just made our life busy. First I used to watch...

  and now I watch....

                                                                                                                                                              

Time moves so fast ... I feel like two - three days before i was studying in my school and I have entered in my college life so early.... but this is life and this is how it changes and gives us surprises.
At this point when I look at what I have achieved so far, I get to know that I have now found my real friends who are damn special and without them my life is just incomplete. I found some who is so much special than others without whom I can not even think of living and much much more..
There are still a lot of things hidden that I will discover in my future and will always cherish them and will share too! that's why I am writing this post in Parts...
The most amazing change that I found within me is that I never liked to read novels and blogs,used to find them so boring but now I like them a lot as if they have become a part of my life. So there are still more things left to discover and to share. Lets see when I discover more and post my Part 2 but for now bye and take care :)

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Love.. Break-up !!

Love.. Break-up !!

You meet someone... Find them attractive... Meet everyday... Becomes your crush... Becomes your love... Propose... Yes! You get committed... Your sweet and bitter relationship starts!

This is what happens in everyone's life. No one knows... Why? but still happens. Our heart is so weak that we always at some point in our life need someone to take care of us and handle us.
I am not against this feeling and don't really want anyone to think against this beautiful relationship, because its part of our life. Some get so lucky that they are able to give their relationship a name in future but some just leave it behind realizing that whom they chose was wrong.
Some people assume its wrong to be in a relationship because you are not that big enough to handle one. How can one control his/her feelings which they feel for the one with whom they want to be? 
Its natural and I guess everyone should feel this even if they feel like breaking up in future. I know no one wants to face this break up thing, but really its not in your hands, it just happens!
We find someone, share our thoughts, care for each other... All this makes us feel so nice but at some point you fight with each other a lot, ego comes in between and if it gets impossible to cope break up becomes the solution for this. On the other side even after so many fights they still stay with each other and understand each other and just live happily. Still if your relationship is meant to break it will surely break even after your loads of efforts. Its all in hands of our lord...our God. We cry because its hard to face the situation but if it is meant to be then no one can stop. Its like "everything happens for a reason". May be someone better is meant for you...it must be that you are so nice you deserve some one much better than whom you had chosen. So it's better to flow with the situation in which you are and try to be live happily, because in future if you find someone better you will always say thanks to God for making you end that relationship which was never meant to be...

This post is specially for the broken hearts because some are so strong that they get out of this easily but some are still there who cry and hurt themselves but never ever understand the true reason behind it. Hope this post will help them to understand!

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Ups and Downs.

Ups and Downs.

Well this is my first post so don't really know what to write and how to write so just thought of writing the life which I have experienced till date.

Even if we take example of anyone's life there will be no one in this world who has not faced any problems and has always been happy and satisfied. Life is full of ups and downs whether its ours or its others. When we take birth in this beautiful universe everyone loves us and takes care of us, the truth is that our childhood is the best part of our life. No tensions, no pain, no sacrifice only what we give and get is love. As we grow enter in teenage life our needs and responsibilities increases. We face some problems and make some mistakes that make our life stressed but at the end we realize what we did was wrong and certainly should not be repeated in future. Our life gets surrounded with books and our activities that we do everyday and makes us think what we want to become ? ... what is the aim of our life?.... what's our ambition?... and when we are about to reach age 18 we realize our aim  and work hard to achieve it. In this journey we meet loads of people who become our friends and become an important part of our lives. Apart from our parents we find new relations and get close to them and also care for them but it is not important that everyone stays in our life forever. At some point something unusual and unexpected thing happens and that person disappears from our life forever and ever. But still life goes on. We enjoy the happy times of our life. We take pictures and cherish them for the rest of our life and even if we don't click pics those moments stay in our mind's and when we are idle or alone suddenly we start remembering those moments which then bring back the smile and laugh at our face. Apart from the happy times we also struggle and face problems that makes us shed some tears but ultimately we get to learn something from each and every moment that we live.

I am still enjoying my college life and still understanding my responsibilities and still getting connected to new people and getting rid of those people who don't care or don't even talk to me. Till this date i have realized one thing that our parents are the only one's who know what is meant for us and what is not. So its our very first responsibility to take care of our parents and respect their advices and decisions that they give to us. The second thing that i have realized in my life is that our problems will never end and till the date we will live we will learn new things even if we get old because its life and never know what u will get to face and what u will get to enjoy!!!

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